Question asked by Evelyn – I’m in a relationship with a guy whom I knew was a playboy before I started dating him along the line he told me he had left all of them for me only to find out last week that he even had new ones added to the old girlfriends. I confronted him and his reply was ‘I knew who he was before I accepted to date him’ what do I do? There are some guys who stay loyal to a relationship and then there are the “playboys”.

If you are in the relationship for fun, go on with it. But if you are in this relationship for “commitment” then forget it. That’s not going to happen with this guy. He will never stay committed, no matter how much you love or care for him. Being a playboy is his “character” and that’s not going to change. It’s a waste of energy on your part to try to change him. You can wish all day, but wishing does not rewrite his nature. Better to face the truth now than keep waiting for a miracle.

You will feel let down and cheated if you harbor the expectation of getting to be committed to you. There are some girls who are okay with the “playboy” attitude of their boyfriend, or even their husband, but frankly, it’s not a very healthy relationship to be in. Such girls usually have a low self-esteem and are “needy” by nature, so they cling on to the guy even he treats them like a “nobody”. That kind of arrangement can eat at your pride little by little.

It’s your call. Just don’t bother changing him, because it won’t help anything. You need to take a decision on what you want. Are you okay to be in a relationship with a guy who is a playboy? You might good reasons to stay put, but fidelity should not be one of them. Remember that there are lot of guys out there who are “one” woman men. In the end, your peace matters more than his habits. If you feel used, then walking away is still an option.